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How To Prepare For An Upcoming Divorce
This all depends on what your goals are. Do you want to make certain you are financial secure or perhaps you would like to save as many assets as possible? Maybe maintenance or child support is a major concern of yours.
Perhaps your major concern is "what will happen to my children." Do I tell my children of the upcoming divorce? Will it impact my children's emotional well being? Is this going to result in a lengthy custody battle?
First and foremost...divorce is a slow process. There are relatively no surprises or surprise court orders. After all, this is a legal proceeding. Everyone is entitled to due process. If your spouse files for divorce, that does not mean that the next day a judge will flip your life upside down.
If a party to a divorce wants the judge to do anything, they first must file a "motion", then they must present the motion to the judge, then the judge gives the other spouse a couple of weeks to respond to the motion, and finally, the motion is then scheduled for a hearing.
Do not worry, take a breath, relax. You will be able to discuss any allegations against you by your spouse with your attorney, well in advance of a court hearing.
Preparing for a divorce is somewhat of a misnomer. The usual problem arises when people over-prepare for a divorce, in the hopes of getting a "leg up" on their spouse. This usually backfires against the spouse. Courts and Judges are well aware of how people may change their behavior and patterns after a divorce petition has been filed. Your credibility will be damaged, and that damage may be irreversible.
Maintain meticulous financial records. Financial records (evidence) is highly important. It is difficult to prove how much money you spend or how much money your spouse earns, based on oral testimony. Financial records are everything in a divorce.
Any communication between your spouse and you regarding your children or financial matters should be through email or text. Remember, it is very difficulty to prove that a conversation ever took place, if there is no written evidence. Oral agreements or disagreements are seldom enforced by judges. Written communication is a must.
If you hired the right divorce or family law attorney, you should always feel at ease. They should be tireless advocates on your behalf. Tell your attorney everything that you think might be relevant to your divorce case. Do not withhold information!
Remember, many attorney provide free consultations. Take the time to meet with a few divorce attorneys. Make sure you feel comfortable with your attorney. Divorce can be a stressful process, and at the very least, you should feel comfortable with your divorce attorney.
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